When mommy is trying to do yoga, and in particular final relaxation, don't start a kicking storm that startles her. She almost yelled out in class!
Poor form!
Monday, March 23, 2009
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
May your mind be wide open...
... may your heart be strong.
It's a lyric that just came on and I like it enough to add it here!
So working from home is, well, working from home! But, I think that overall it's going quite well. Here's hoping it stays that way! I get my first draft back from the client tomorrow and hopefully there aren't many changes to what I've proposed.
Fingers crossed.
On the me front, I've been thinking more and more about the relationship between me, my mom and my stepmom. Man it's complicated.
Following everything that went down after the wedding (blame, blame, blame), I'm a little concerned about the upcoming birth. Mainly following the birth and when people want to come and visit.
Since my mom now lives out of province, she will be coming here to stay for a bit. I think I'm OK with that. Having an extra pair of hands around the house will be great. But the thing is, my dad and stepmom will want to visit... and if my mom is staying here... they'll be here at the same time.
I grew up thinking things were hunky dory between my dad, mom and stepmom. More recently I've gathered that this may not be the case. The wedding was one of those recent moments.
Within two weeks of having this child, I will not be any condition (and nor should I need to be) to act as moderator. I will NOT be focusing on everyone elses well being - I refuse. So what to do?
I know I need to get this out in the open soon so that discussions can be had.
I need to talk with my mom about what her expectations are when she's here. I need to tell her what MY expectations are while she's here. I need to ask her what her suggestion is for how visits are managed, because I'm concerned. We need to get some of the emotional baggage out on the table, because I can't have another event like the post-wedding emotional bullshit. I'm still not over THAT, and it's over two years old.
My stepmom doesn't know a fraction of the stuff that went down with my mom. All she knows is that my mom was upset following the wedding. And honestly, she doesn't need to know any more than that. My mom's baggage is not her responsibility. Nor is it mine.
Oh jeeze the things life throws at us...
And my stepmom is another item all together. She is perpetually full of unsolicited advice and most recently this has included a tidbit I heard from my dad this morning that "Thom and I are taking on way too much given what we need to do around the house to get it ready for the baby".
Thanks. We'll take that into consideration. Now keep your thoughts to yourself. That is, unless you're willing to lend a hand. AND THIS after years of her suggesting we take on said responsibility... Jesus!
So I need to have some conversations and I need to set up some boundaries. This little one will need to arrive into an environment that is befitting it's arrival... it doesn't need to be plunged into the bullshit I've been living for the past two years.
It's a lyric that just came on and I like it enough to add it here!
So working from home is, well, working from home! But, I think that overall it's going quite well. Here's hoping it stays that way! I get my first draft back from the client tomorrow and hopefully there aren't many changes to what I've proposed.
Fingers crossed.
On the me front, I've been thinking more and more about the relationship between me, my mom and my stepmom. Man it's complicated.
Following everything that went down after the wedding (blame, blame, blame), I'm a little concerned about the upcoming birth. Mainly following the birth and when people want to come and visit.
Since my mom now lives out of province, she will be coming here to stay for a bit. I think I'm OK with that. Having an extra pair of hands around the house will be great. But the thing is, my dad and stepmom will want to visit... and if my mom is staying here... they'll be here at the same time.
I grew up thinking things were hunky dory between my dad, mom and stepmom. More recently I've gathered that this may not be the case. The wedding was one of those recent moments.
Within two weeks of having this child, I will not be any condition (and nor should I need to be) to act as moderator. I will NOT be focusing on everyone elses well being - I refuse. So what to do?
I know I need to get this out in the open soon so that discussions can be had.
I need to talk with my mom about what her expectations are when she's here. I need to tell her what MY expectations are while she's here. I need to ask her what her suggestion is for how visits are managed, because I'm concerned. We need to get some of the emotional baggage out on the table, because I can't have another event like the post-wedding emotional bullshit. I'm still not over THAT, and it's over two years old.
My stepmom doesn't know a fraction of the stuff that went down with my mom. All she knows is that my mom was upset following the wedding. And honestly, she doesn't need to know any more than that. My mom's baggage is not her responsibility. Nor is it mine.
Oh jeeze the things life throws at us...
And my stepmom is another item all together. She is perpetually full of unsolicited advice and most recently this has included a tidbit I heard from my dad this morning that "Thom and I are taking on way too much given what we need to do around the house to get it ready for the baby".
Thanks. We'll take that into consideration. Now keep your thoughts to yourself. That is, unless you're willing to lend a hand. AND THIS after years of her suggesting we take on said responsibility... Jesus!
So I need to have some conversations and I need to set up some boundaries. This little one will need to arrive into an environment that is befitting it's arrival... it doesn't need to be plunged into the bullshit I've been living for the past two years.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
March
Well March is here and I really can't wait for April... or May for that matter... I am SO ready for spring and summer. This winter has really kicked my ass. Bring on the warmth!
For the month of March I will be working from home on a contract I got with another company. The work is interesting enough, but I just realized yesterday that I set a deadline for myself (and my employer) for Friday. Uh, yeah. Lots to do! BUT, once I get through this boatload, the remainder should be far more doable. Let's hope.
SO the pregnancy is going well. I guess I haven't shared much about it. Well here it goes.
I'm due July 17th. I'm hoping to push the date off a tiny bit so I end up with a Leo. My leo husband is pretty alright, and apparently Leos and Sagittarius' get a long well... Yes, I'm basing a lot on a date.
The end of Nov into early December was pretty rough. Dead tired, FREEZING cold and nausea. But, I count my lucky stars that that was the worst of it. I did have a little morning puke last week, but I then went on my way to work. Little bouts of nausea here and there, but totally manageable.
I've received a few bits of unsolicited advice
- Avoiding alcohol isn't necessary. I drank all through my pregnancy and my kid is fine.
- Eat lots of dairy fat (SIGN ME UP!)
- Well, I guess you're going to need to focus on losing weight once you've had the baby, then... (that treat, from my dad).
So let me give you a little context behind my dad's comment. First off, my dad would NEVER say anything rude or anything to hurt me... it's all just a little misunderstanding. You see, I've gained 13 lbs. Considering I'm halfway through my pregnancy, that's about right. I told my dad how much I have gained and he thought that was a HUGE amount ("Your mother never gained that!" - well, yes... actually she gained 30 lbs...). And he knows that I was actively trying to lose weight prior to getting pregnant (I was down to 165!!!), so put the two together and you have unsolicited advice. I immediately told him as much.
Anyhow...
So Thom and I are looking to take a trip towards the end of the month. It's a pre-baby trip, and our only intent for the trip is to lay on the beach and read. Usually we take in a few tours, explore the surrounding area, etc, but this time, not so much. So we haven't booked anything yet, and we're planning to take advantage of last minute deals. Let's hope we're not burned!
So another little fun tidbit of info is that my good friend L is also expecting - two weeks before me! It has been nice to go through the different phases with her. Very reassuring.
For instance, last week I was a complete basket case. And of course, over little things, e.g., the plumber we hired to hook up our washing machine charged too much, someone doored our car, etc, etc. Enough little things that I melted down. I look forward to being done with this excessive emotional business. I'm emotional enough as it is!
Also, right off the bat (and until only recently), I was extremely indifferent about being pregnant. I felt extremely guilty about it. L felt the same. Most of you folks know my concern about being a parent and how I'll treat the little one, and this all leads into it. But what comforts me is knowing that Thom is the most supportive person I know. He is my strength and he will help me through anything.
Anyhow, my self-imposed lunch break is over. Have yourselves a lovely day.
For the month of March I will be working from home on a contract I got with another company. The work is interesting enough, but I just realized yesterday that I set a deadline for myself (and my employer) for Friday. Uh, yeah. Lots to do! BUT, once I get through this boatload, the remainder should be far more doable. Let's hope.
SO the pregnancy is going well. I guess I haven't shared much about it. Well here it goes.
I'm due July 17th. I'm hoping to push the date off a tiny bit so I end up with a Leo. My leo husband is pretty alright, and apparently Leos and Sagittarius' get a long well... Yes, I'm basing a lot on a date.
The end of Nov into early December was pretty rough. Dead tired, FREEZING cold and nausea. But, I count my lucky stars that that was the worst of it. I did have a little morning puke last week, but I then went on my way to work. Little bouts of nausea here and there, but totally manageable.
I've received a few bits of unsolicited advice
- Avoiding alcohol isn't necessary. I drank all through my pregnancy and my kid is fine.
- Eat lots of dairy fat (SIGN ME UP!)
- Well, I guess you're going to need to focus on losing weight once you've had the baby, then... (that treat, from my dad).
So let me give you a little context behind my dad's comment. First off, my dad would NEVER say anything rude or anything to hurt me... it's all just a little misunderstanding. You see, I've gained 13 lbs. Considering I'm halfway through my pregnancy, that's about right. I told my dad how much I have gained and he thought that was a HUGE amount ("Your mother never gained that!" - well, yes... actually she gained 30 lbs...). And he knows that I was actively trying to lose weight prior to getting pregnant (I was down to 165!!!), so put the two together and you have unsolicited advice. I immediately told him as much.
Anyhow...
So Thom and I are looking to take a trip towards the end of the month. It's a pre-baby trip, and our only intent for the trip is to lay on the beach and read. Usually we take in a few tours, explore the surrounding area, etc, but this time, not so much. So we haven't booked anything yet, and we're planning to take advantage of last minute deals. Let's hope we're not burned!
So another little fun tidbit of info is that my good friend L is also expecting - two weeks before me! It has been nice to go through the different phases with her. Very reassuring.
For instance, last week I was a complete basket case. And of course, over little things, e.g., the plumber we hired to hook up our washing machine charged too much, someone doored our car, etc, etc. Enough little things that I melted down. I look forward to being done with this excessive emotional business. I'm emotional enough as it is!
Also, right off the bat (and until only recently), I was extremely indifferent about being pregnant. I felt extremely guilty about it. L felt the same. Most of you folks know my concern about being a parent and how I'll treat the little one, and this all leads into it. But what comforts me is knowing that Thom is the most supportive person I know. He is my strength and he will help me through anything.
Anyhow, my self-imposed lunch break is over. Have yourselves a lovely day.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
To mac or not to mac?
Hey folks,
I know a bunch of you are totally keen on one computer type or another, so I wanted to get your input on whether we should buy a Mac for our new computer. This one is on it's way out (currently running on 256 RAM) and we just want to make the decision that is right for us.
Here is what we would use it for:
- photo editing
- internet (Flickr, Facebook, email, etc)
- moderate word processing and use of spreadsheets
- music and video download and storage
Any input would be wonderful because we need to update this puppy pronto!
I know a bunch of you are totally keen on one computer type or another, so I wanted to get your input on whether we should buy a Mac for our new computer. This one is on it's way out (currently running on 256 RAM) and we just want to make the decision that is right for us.
Here is what we would use it for:
- photo editing
- internet (Flickr, Facebook, email, etc)
- moderate word processing and use of spreadsheets
- music and video download and storage
Any input would be wonderful because we need to update this puppy pronto!
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